What a joy it is to watch our kids survive and thrive in life. Although my children (both played for AYSES for about eleven years) are now older and done with select soccer, I remember feeling I didn’t care what they wanted to do I would be there to watch and encourage! That’s the fun part of raising children. The more difficult thing for a parent is learning the balance between being supportive and encouraging. Looking back, I was an overbearing father in youth sports, especially in the younger years. I say that with a large measure of humility and embarrassment today.
What's Important
I have been where you are. While no two experiences are the same, I would like to share my experiences with you in hopes you will find them helpful. I made a lot of mistakes; maybe you won’t have to make the same ones I did.
I told my son we would look at different teams, but there were three things most important: 1) find a coach/club where soccer is taught, not just played to win (I had already seen enough of that), 2) find a coach who would treat my son with respect (no one is going to say things to my son that I won’t even say to them) and 3) we wanted a good role model from the coach who would spending a lot of hours each week with our son. Don’t take any of these things for granted.
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Important Decision Criteria
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The Academy
It is important during the pre-select years for your son/daughter to get good instruction AND have fun. Once the qualifying tournament begins shortly after signing day in U11, everything changes. Club youth academies are for teaching your child important soccer skills. Take advantage of it. They also present an excellent opportunity for you to find the right club and coach for your child.
Buyer Beware – this is a business and clubs will many times do what is in their best interest, which may, or may not, be in the best interest of your child. Beware of promises, sales pitches and exaggeration by a coach who wants your son/daughter to play for the. I have never known a 11 year old who got a college offer for a scholarship, but there are lots of clubs/coaches out there who will sell it. Certain clubs pitch this hard, but do your homework. Go back to the last team that graduated and find out how many of those players started with that team at U11. There is a whole group of 11 year olds that started on that team 9 years ago that aren’t there anymore. Two questions to ask: 1) where are those players now? and 2) where did you recruit these players from because someone else may have had an important part in developing them. |
Team Parents
Much to my surprise, my son didn’t need for me to yell or criticize. He did just fine listening to the coach. I found enjoyment becoming my son’s biggest fan and left the coaching to someone else. This is easier for some people than others but make the effort for your sakes and your players’.
Enjoy the parents on the sidelines. I met my two business partners in youth soccer. Some of my closest friends and social relationships have come from getting to know parents on the sidelines. You will travel with them, got to end of the year parties with them and be involved in team functions. Make it enjoyable for your child, but make it good for you, too. |
Summary
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What is select soccer and how is it different than the association league in my area?
Select soccer is a group of soccer “clubs” with teams in various age groups that compete against each other. Players try out for teams and clubs in June and July. For selected players, contracts are offered to play with that team for a year. Included in the agreement is to abide by club conduct rules, a commitment for the player to be at practice and a financial commitment to the club in exchange for coaching and facilities. Uniforms and other work out gear may, or not may not, be part of the total cost of club soccer as this is handled different by different clubs.
Why would I want my son or daughter to play select soccer?
One of the great things about youth select soccer is that most of the coaches are former professional players. This brings a level of professionalism to the coaching not found in association football or some other youth sports. Most of the coaches make a living by teaching children and young men and women how to play soccer. In many instances, this long-term approach to a coach, club or team means that the focus of your coach will develop his/her players over the years they play select soccer.
How much travel is involved?
It really depends on the age group and club. In the younger age groups, only a few clubs travel to tournaments as far as California or Florida. There is really no reason to travel to those locations in the younger age group except to play against top competition from other regions. Most U11 – U15 teams play in regional or statewide tournaments. Popular locations include Austin, Houston, Oklahoma City, San Antonio and Tulsa. This might include a one or two night stay with the team and chaperones. Many times, especially in the younger age groups, parents attend to monitor and support their players.
My child plays other sports. Will select soccer interfere?
Yes, it can. Many of the players in younger age groups play other sports, but most clubs and coaches will ask you upfront to make sure that soccer is the priority when there is a conflict. Soccer takes a lot of training and development which requires at least two practices a weekend most weekends games or scrimmages.
How much does it cost a year?
There isn’t easy to answer as each club or team may have a little bit different way of collecting money. Some clubs collect their “fees” upfront. These fees include facility usage for their team, coaches, administration and their portion of league fees for their team. Some clubs will include uniforms in the upfront cost, but most will ask you to pay for the uniforms separately. The last club cost is travel and tournaments. Besides gasoline, food and hotel, the tournament will have a cost they charge to participate. Again, some teams may add this cost to the upfront fee and others will charge the parents when the tournaments occur. The last cost will be soccer equipment such as soccer cleats, shin guards, a practice uniform and soccer balls.
Do I have to pay for this all at once?
No, most clubs have payout programs where a percentage is paid on the date the agreement is signed and then periodic, pre-arranged payments. Always talk to your coach or club representative well in advance to get the information you need. Do not be afraid to ask questions and compare costs between clubs. The least expensive solution is not always the best, but you can at least compare the different programs so you won’t be surprised as hidden charges during the year.
Can I switch teams during the year?
Select contracts are made with the club, not the coach or the team although they can act as representatives of the club. Like other select sports, the agreement is signed for a one year period. Players may transfer to other teams or clubs during the transfer or try-out period in late June and the first half of July. If a parent wants a player to transfer during the course of the season, it takes the current coach, the new coach and the league to approve the transfer. Unless there are special circumstances, this is discouraged by the league.
If I am unhappy with my coach, is there anyone I can talk to?
Most club teams have a Director of Coaching. He/she is an important person in charge of oversight of the teams and coaches. It is always important to talk to your coach about the issue that has your concern. Many of your questions can be answered by the team manager. Your team manager will have regular communications with the coach and might be able to give you some important feedback. If you need additional information or feel as the Director of Coaching (DOC) should know, then call and make an appointment. The 24 hour rule is a good rule of thumb to use. When parents are upset at lack of playing time, upset by on the field decision being made (like your son/daughter being played in a certain position you aren’t comfortable with) then wait 24 hours after the game before speaking with your coach. It is also advisable to call a coach and ask for an appointment. Speaking in front of other players and parents can sometimes be embarrassing for you player.
What if I can’t make it to a practice or a game?
Give your coach as much notice as possible. Don’t call after practice to tell the coach your son/daughter couldn’t make it. Try not to call 15 minutes before the game and tell the coach your player is sick unless there are circumstances that make that impossible. Be respectful to your coach and the other players and parents of the team and give as much notice as possible.
What is the role of the Team Manager?
The Team Manager plays a key role with your team and coach. He/she are the liaison between you and the coach, between you and the team and maybe between you and other parents. They organize trips, provide players and parents with the latest practice and game information, are a conduit for team and club communications and manage most of the financial transactions of the team including the collection of payments.